Browsing Category : boundaries

All is All, All Means


Last night, I did something I vowed to myself I’d never do again: meet with a group of women outside a Celebrate Recovery environment. • Why did I make such a *vow* to myself? • Because for so long, it’s been difficult for me to trust myself with other women – particularly outside of the safer environment that CR provides.…

It’s Time to Be Better


I can’t begin to count how many times it’s been that I’ve written the words, “It’s been such a long time.” Once again, here I am saying the same words. However, unlike the past, I don’t feel shamed by them. I haven’t blogged like the beast I used to when I first started this writing journey back in late 2010.…

Election Blackout


I posted this on my Facebook page in a Note. I am editing it some for content, as some things came to light today after attending church. ————       It comes down to this: this election season, sprinkled with all the issues our nation and world has endured this year that has had the media in a whirlwind…

The Space of Grace


My friend, Matt Ham, posted this yesterday on his Facebook page: “I came to a realization tonight… So many people have had Jesus forced upon them by the very people who are unwilling to be Jesus to them in their lives.” He’s quite right. As a Christian of nearly thirteen years, I’ve been privy to experience things in church I…

How To Handle Narcissism


In the beginning of my recovery journey from the abuse I endured – once I was aware of it –  I did not handle it well at all. In fact, I handled it so codependently, I only added fuel to an already very volatile and toxic fire. As to be expected, however, since I was unaware of the abuse I was…

Why I’m Not Observing Lent


So, I’m researching to explore this whole season we’re in with many people observing Lent. In actuality, though the scriptures reveal many people (including Jesus) fasted, and there were wanderings and other things that deal with 40 days, the reality is nowhere in scripture is Lent (or even Ash Wednesday) remotely revealed as a practice a Christian *needs* to engage…

Resolution: It’s Necessary


Resolutions. Goals. Purposing. Whatever your word for the impending New Year, the reality is, a New Year is happening with or without any of these things. I’ve sought to never make resolutions before, because honestly, yes…I fail miserably at them. The majority of people do, and I believe I know why. It’s because of the word. I firmly believe the…

Picking Up Where I Left Off


Hey everyone, I’m Marni. A grateful believer in Jesus who still struggles with codependency, dependency and anxiety. It’s been nearly two months since my last post, and I’m picking up where I left off. It bugs me that I’ve allowed this to go on for this long…again. Yet, I’m not beating myself up like I have in the past when…

Boundaries and Codependency


Hi, everyone. I’m Marni…I’m still grateful for Jesus in my life…and I’m still struggling at times…but I’m still walking out my steps [in Christ] everyday. Lately, my life has been turned a bit upside down concerning boundaries. Prior to going on vacation to the beach with my immediate family (husband and son), The Holy Spirit really compelled me to firm…