The Space of Grace


My friend, Matt Ham, posted this yesterday on his Facebook page: “I came to a realization tonight… So many people have had Jesus forced upon them by the very people who are unwilling to be Jesus to them in their lives.” He’s quite right. As a Christian of nearly thirteen years, I’ve been privy to experience things in church I…

9/11, Recovery and the National Anthem


Heads up: this is a long post Yesterday morning, just like everyone else in America, I awoke to the reality it was fifteen years since the occurrence of 9/11 when two planes plummeted into the Twin Towers of the World Trade Center in NYC. I remember that day vividly. In fact, it was the very day I was also fired…

An Open Letter to Ryan Lochte


Ryan, I write this open letter to you for one reason: so you know not everyone in this nation or world seeks to shame you but instead extend grace and forgiveness. I admit, Ryan, I felt discouraged to learn that you allowed yourself to become so intoxicated that your testimony of the events in Rio a week ago was embellished.…

Why Don’t You Know Jon Acuff?


I’m changing a few things up around here. This whole new brave vibe going on in my life has me venturing out to do new and bold things. Lately, I’m resonating with the opening of Star Trek: The Next Generation where Captain JeanLuc Picard states in his regal voice. Space, the final frontier. These are the voyages of the Starship Enterprise.…

On Shame, Grace and Love


Ryan Lochte caught in a lie. Gabby Douglas called out for not being “patriotic enough.” Matt Damon slammed for having hair extensions for a “man bun.” Kurt Metzger is called out for his misogynistic rants on Facebook about rape culture. On and on and on it goes on Twitter and the media, and people are eating this stuff up left…

Life Takes Guts to Live


The story behind this photo is simple. I drug my husband and son out of bed just before the crack of dawn to walk to the pier to capture the sunrise. As tired as we all were, we all stood in awe as we watched the sun slowly creep over the horizon’s edge; all the while, my shutter going a…

How To Handle Narcissism


In the beginning of my recovery journey from the abuse I endured – once I was aware of it –  I did not handle it well at all. In fact, I handled it so codependently, I only added fuel to an already very volatile and toxic fire. As to be expected, however, since I was unaware of the abuse I was…

Narcissists Aren’t Evil


This title, for many, may bring forth a visceral response. Anyone who’s been a victim of an abuser period – of any sort – will viscerally respond to this because their reality is: they’ve been victimized. My friends, your voices are heard, and your feelings are validated. I’m not here to dismiss anything you’ve been through, or what you truly…