I’ve been asked many times why recovery is so important to me in my life. The reason is simple: it’s the primary tool that helps me stay accountable to living my life healthily.
I’ve also received questions from a handful of well-meaning people that since I am a Christian, they don’t understand why I need a “crutch” in my life. Their perspective is that recovery is a crutch; and if someone has recovery, it’s a one time gig and they don’t need to continue attending meetings or going to counseling from time to time. And here’s my response to this perspective:
While this sounds romantic, the reality is that recovery for everyone will look different.
Some people in life have been so ravenously abused that their default method of coping has been found through engaging life out of fear, reaction, and pain (and it’s always pointed back at themselves because it’s all they know). In turn, salvation alone doesn’t mean that in this blink of an eye moment, all issues that person faces and feel are *poof!* gone!
Anyone who’s endured abuse and/or engaged in life destructive behaviors must re-learn how to live life. Period. And for those who are Christian’s, yes, Jesus teaches us how to reconcile our lives to Him – but often, it takes tools such as Celebrate Recovery [and even counseling alongside it] to help us stay accountable to the re-learning how to live life process (which is lifelong).
Recovery isn’t a crutch when it’s the tool that helps you learn how to live life healthily again. It only becomes a crutch when it becomes your god, and recovery programs were not formed to become our gods. They were created to be tools to help us all reconnect with our lives in healthy ways. This helps us all learn how to live out our best lives possible.
Now, there are plenty of other great recovery support groups out there that are issue specific such as:
– Alcoholics Anonymous (AA)
– Narcotics Anonymous (NA)
– And many more, and you can find some info about that info here: http://www.rehabs.com/pro-talk-articles/if-not-aa-then-what-alternatives-to-12-step-groups/
I will always encourage first and foremost Celebrate Recovery. I have seen true life change through this recovery program not only in my life but in a multitude of lives I’ve had the blessed opportunity to connect with personally (and befriend deeply with some of them as well) through this recovery program and ministry. Also, I love CR because it’s not issue-specific. Any hurts, habits and hang-ups are welcome through the doors of a CR group. Even if you don’t struggle with recovery from abuse, or issues with substances or even issues like sex addiction, you’re welcome to join in and find recovery for your life. No one will force Jesus down your throat, but keep in mind, it is a Christ-centered recovery program, so the focus will always be on God. So if you struggle with depression (like I did when I first went to CR in early 2009), you are in good company. If you struggle with anxiety, fears, codependency, alcoholism, drug addiction, sex addiction, food issues, PTSD, etc…etc…etc…you’re welcomed through the doors of every CR group and won’t find any judgment.
And if you need something more specific to help you with your issues, by all means – go there. And if you find you need to attend multiple support groups (perhaps including CR), this is more than okay. In fact, whatever you need to do to get the best recovery for you possible, is what will always be encouraged by anyone who is supportive of recovery.
Now, if you want to hear a great breakdown of just why recovery is so important in human lives – especially those of us who’ve endured abuse – take a listen to this sermon. Grab a cup of coffee, a notepad, and a pen or pencil and be willing to sit down (uninterrupted) for 45 minutes:
If you’re seeking hope out in your life, I don’t think you’ll be sorry you listened to this.